Dating - online dating

Giving a rose during a date is a sweet gesture. More women would like to receive them either in a wonderfully arranged bouquet or a single rose will do. You can make a good impression if you send her roses after your first date, such as while she's at work or at her home, or you can even send it personally.
But do put in mind that the flower's color matters much, as it sends a message to your date of how you feel towards her. Here is your guide to the colors of love as expressed in flowers.
Red – A bouquet of red roses
proclaim “I love you.”
Pink – Any shade of pink roses
means “Thank you.”
White – Sending a white rose
means “I miss you.”
Lilac – Light purple roses say “I
have fallen in love for you.”
Yellow – Do not send your date
yellow roses unless you mean
“Let's be friends instead.”

You've passed through your first date, and it was great. What are you going to do now? Here are some tips that can be helpful:
Follow-up – Make a follow-up call or send an e-mail to the person two or three days after the first date. Suggest that you wanted to meet him or her again some time, indicating that you're inviting for a second date. If your date declines, then don't waste your time waiting.
Be creative in your activities – If the person is interested for a second date, suggest a new activity that both of your could try. Consider doing something unusual on dates; something you don't do every day. Think of places you have always wanted to see or activities you would like to try and share them with the person. For instance, go on a cycling tour, enjoy hiking up a mountain, walk along the beach, or play miniature golf. You could also try some more unusual
activities such as trying on costumes or relaxing at spas. If you come up with unique ways to play, you'll seem special and the person will be interested to know more about you.
Don't go overboard to impress – Always be nice to the person, but still be yourself. Remember that your second date should be about spending fun activities together, not trying to impress your date some more. Doing so could cause you to scare away your date. Just let your personality shine.

Dates tend to have two different endings: either you don't want to see him or her again, or you look forward to see your date as soon as possible. If your date ends with the latter scenario, then
try asking for his or her phone number. Take your date home (if you're a woman, let him hitch a cab for you) and seal the night with a friendly kiss. But what happens the days after the date? When should you call your new-found friend for another round of dating? Here are some great dating tips that you should follow:
Send a thank you message right after the date – Although calling your date right after you went out together to say thanks is a more personal approach, others consider this as too eager and sometimes puts them off. Instead, try send a text message (or e-mail, if you have the address) at this early stage. Remember to keep it short and sweet.
Guys should wait for two days before calling your date again – Timing is crucial here. Calling too soon and you would give an impression that you are overly keen; too late, however, and your date might think that you are insincere or merely playing games. Once you get to talk to your date, tell her that you had a wonderful time the last you were together, then leave the option open for another date to follow. Women should wait for the guy to call back on this stage.
Do not chat for too long on your first call – Do not appear too needy by talking to your date over the phone for hours. Keep the chat short and simple. After all, you would have a lot of time telephoning with your date after your second or third date.
Know what you are going to say – Do not let your nerves overpower you when talking to your date. If you have to, try practicing what you are going to say beforehand.
Smile while talking – Even if your date doesn't see you, she would definitely appreciate if you are talking with a happy grin as it would come across the phone line. You could try seeing the difference between talking with or without a smile.
Too much answering machine messages is not a good sign – If you are getting repeated messages from your date's answering machine, chances are the feelings between each other are not mutual. If this happens, try leaving your message—together with your phone number—only once. Your date would call she is likewise interested.
Too much calls from your date is not a good sign either – It displays an impression that your date is clinging too much. Being needy is unattractive as it shows signs of insecurity. Remember that dating on its initial stages should be relaxed and casual.
Avoid text messaging your date as much as possible – Sending messages through your mobile phone are fun and convenient, but is easily misinterpreted (especially with all the innovative jargon associated with texting). Never wait by the phone – Do not stay home and anticipate whether or not your date would call back. You have your own life to enjoy. If someone is going to call you, they will. At the same time, do not leave messages if ever your date doesn't call. Just keep on living your busy life and give dating another try.
Excuses are rarely true – Your date might not have called because he or she is away on a business trip, for instance. However, excuses are not true all the time. If someone wants to reach you by the phone, they would have gone through hell or high water just to do so. If you hear an excuse such as “I tried to call you, but...”, then it is time to move on to another date.
Keep your expectations realistically low – Pleasant surprises are far better than defeated expectations. If the phone rings, let them leave a message and respond as soon as you are ready to call back.
Keep your promises to call back – If you said you call, do so, even if it is to let them down gently. Expecting a call that never comes is a worst thing that you can do to someone as it wastes their time and hurts them emotionally.

With a little resourcefulness and imagination, you can plan dates that are fun yet very inexpensive. After all, you do not need to dine at a formal restaurant, watch a musical, or attend a concert if you and your date has a connection and chemistry towards each other. Here are our suggested activities that would impress your date even if on a budget. Remember that you could do some of these on the same day, making your date more enjoyable.


Rent a movie – You can watch movies (or even TV series) on rented DVDs. Add some sodas and popcorn, then you are ready to dim the lights and cuddle up.


Get a drink – Take a trip in the city and visit a decent bar to have some good drinks like a margarita or martini (even beer, if your date is into it). With a few drinks, your date would loosen up and have some deeper, more intimate conversations.



Have a cup of coffee – If you and your date are caffeine lovers, a chat at a coffee shop can forge your connection towards one another.


Walk in the park – Every city has a great park to stroll around and indulge on its numerous activities. Walk around its beautiful scenery while holding hands, or you can have a picnic and enjoy your lunch on the grass. If your city is located near the sea, try walking on the beach and get some tan.



Nature walks – Some communities have hiking or nature trails. Your outdoorsy date would surely love to see the breath-taking nature views.


Exercising together – You don't need a gym to stay fit if you and your partner like to jog or walk around. You could even do some partner exercises on the park.


Tour your own city – Enjoy the sights and sounds of your very own city. Even smaller cities have something to behold. If your city has a local billiard hall, amusement parks, skating rinks, dance halls, or a comedy club, give them a visit.



Local events – Check out your local newspaper for upcoming events that you and your date could participate such as fairs and public parties.


Bike ride – If you and your date are into biking, why not go around town riding your bicycles (or even on motorcycles)? If your date does not know how to ride a bike, try hitching him or her with you—be careful though.


Miniature golf – Spending the day outdoors and engaging in relaxing and enjoyable activities make great yet inexpensive dates. Playing a round of miniature golf is fun and engaging, especially if both of you do not have any golfing experience. Do not worry about making mistakes or missing some shots, you could just laugh it off.


Eating ice cream together – Bring out the child in you once you see an ice cream truck. Buy two cones and eat some ice cream with your date.


Cook dinner at home – You can plan a romantic meal without the hefty price tag. Shop for necessary ingredients beforehand and spend the night cooking and eating the meals that you have created. If you can't cook, you can either buy take-out meals or have them delivered into your home.


Board games – Playing board games, especially with kids or some friends, stimulate group activity. You could even play against each other and show off your competitive side without any physical contact.



Explore flea markets – You and your date could find some great items at your local flea market. You could even exchange gifts right on the spot.

In dating, the first few dates should be the most enjoyable because this is where you are building that first impression. The following suggestions on putting an added pizazz on the first date
should come in handy.
An element of surprise – When inviting your date for a second date, don't tell him or her where you are going. Instead, try blindfolding your partner until you reach the surprise destination, such as a picnic laid out for two in a park or a living strewn with rose petals. This not only tickles your lover's fancy but also adds an air of excitement to the date.
Get quirky – Dating is not limited to renting a video and falling into bed, or eating at the same restaurant everyday. Think of ways to entertain your lover such as renting costumes and holding your own theme night, complete with food in your apartment, or try taking up dance lessons.
Emphasize on mutual interest – Try to remember which interests brought you together in the first place. It's not fun to watch a football match if your girlfriend who is with you is completely bored watching the game. If you are both interested in art, then try something artistic and fun like pottery. If you love animals, how about a trip to a zoo?

End your first date would depend if it is a success or a failure.


Success:
If you meet your date at his or her house, take him or her home. If you do not have a car, a cab will do. If you meet your date at a public place, volunteer to take him or her home. If your date declines, offer to hitch a cab for your date. Be thankful to the other person. Tell you date that you want to see him or her again. A good indicator of a successful blind date is if the woman offers her phone number to her date. Kiss or hug. How you do it depends on the situation, although it is best for the man to “feel” if the woman “expects” to be kissed.
Failure:
If you meet your date at his or her house, take him or her home. You could at least keep your politeness towards your date. If you meet your date at a public place, offer to hitch a cab for your date. Be thankful to the other person, but indicate that both of you do not have a
lot in common. If your date asks for your phone number, politely decline. Hug your date, especially if the date ended mutually. If your date was a total failure (arguments, signs of rudeness), shaking your date's hand will do.

Even if you are not supposed to enter a blind date with bad expectations in mind, you should keep an eye out of some warning signs that your date would not be a good partner.
Your date wears a wedding ring – Even if your date claims that he or she is divorced or widowed, it is best to be a little doubtful about it.
Your date talks about past failed relationships – This is an indication that your date is not open to entering a new relationship or is anticipating for another bad relationship (and would talk to his or her next date about your relationship).

Your date speaks badly about his mother or exes – This especially applies to men who tend to bad-mouth about other women, especially their mothers or ex-girlfriends. If he ever does this, it means that he would most likely disrespect you as well.
Your date does not offer to pay – Although men are dictated by etiquette to pay for the first date, the women should at least offer to pay for their share of the meal.
Your date is directly rude at you – Once you notice that your date is either rude or even making fun at you, do not tolerate the this bad behavior and end your date as soon as possible.
Your date is rude towards waiters – This is a good indicator on how your date treats other people, including you (even if he appears to be nice towards you).

Your date drinks a lot – If your date is drinking excessively during your first date, it is most likely that he or she would do it more often and could even destroy your relationship.
Your date does not pay attention to you – It simply means that your date is uninterested. If you feel that there is no connection or chemistry between the two of you, end the date as soon as possible.

When you meet a potential partner for the first time, we sometimes get nervous on what to say, afraid that we might say something wrong. Here are some dos and don'ts when it comes to
dating conversations.
Ask about your date – What does he or she do for a living? Which state or city was he or she from? What are his or her interests and hobbies?
Ask about your date's family and friends – Is your date come from a tight-knit family? What does his or her friends do when they go out?
Talk about yourself – What your date has revealed about him or her, tell to your date about your side as well. That keeps you from revealing too much about yourself, but you could tell more about it on your next date.
Compliment your date – If he or she is well-dressed and well-groomed, compliment about it as soon as you meet your date. Drop compliments (don't invent them though) every now and then during the conversation. However, stop complimenting once your date feels uneasy about it (but that rarely happens). Discuss about movies, TV, and music – Ask your date if he or she likes to watch movies (or TV, music) and know his or her favorites. Make a connection on your common favorites. If there aren't any common favorites, just say what you like.
Open-ended questions – Stimulate the conversation by asking questions that do not end up with a “yes” or “no” for an answer. For instance, if your date revealed that he or she is into tech gadgets, ask what would be his or her dream gadget to own.
Do not discuss past relationships – The purpose of a date is to search for potential partners and not to weep about your each other's exes. If your date asks about your past relationships, just tell him or her of how long your most long-term relationship lasted.
Do not talk about religion and politics – People will always have different opinions about these topics, and most of the time they would not agree. Arguing about your date's stand on topics like abortion or gay marriage is definitely not recommended.
Topics that do not interest the other person – If you have an interest that your date finds unusual or boring, stop talking about it. For instance, if your date feels uninterested about your passion in Rubik's Cube, then look for other topics that both of you feel favorable with.
Do not ever say anything that would offend your date or anyone else –Being mean and inconsiderate does not make a good impression.
Do not monopolize the conversation – Remember that conversations are supposed to be two-way, so don't forget to let your date talk and listen to what he or she would say.
Do not cross-examine your date – Asking too much about your date's particular detail would make him or her uncomfortable as you are stepping into the bounds of privacy. For instance, do not ask too much about your date's virginity after he or she revealed that your date hasn't had any sexual encounters.

If you get yourself a first date—especially from someone you knew before—the first thing that you should consider is how to make it so good that you date would want to see you on a second
date. However, it doesn't take too much stress to prepare about it. Remember that a date is all about knowing the other person better and treating him or her with respect. Check out our list to see what you should consider.
Choose the right outfit – Wearing provocative or inappropriate clothing risk making the wrong impression. Although your date may be familiar to you, your revealing or flashy dress could mean that you are trying too hard to impress him or her. Wear clothes that are appropriate to the venue, and at the same time your date would be familiar with.
Do not wear too much perfume – Just because you still couldn't smell the perfume from your body doesn't mean that you don't have enough of it. Apply the perfume on your pulse points such as behind the ears and on the wrists, and you're ready to go.
Consider to meet at a public place – Even if you are dating someone you know, it is best to meet him or her at a public place such as a park or a restaurant. A public place provides safety and security.
Prepare a plan – If you are familiar with your date, you should have an idea of his or hers likes and dislikes. Create a list of activities that you and your date would both love to do. Why reserve a table at an expensive restaurant if you date prefers to have a picnic by the park? Also, don't forget about your date's eating habits and allergies, or previous injuries when considering a physical activity such as football passing. Men should still practice chivalry – We may be living in a new century, but men should still take care of women. He should open doors for women, pull the chairs for her, and letting her order first. When playing sports with your woman, make sure to be gentle—and also let her win.

Listen – Ask question and show (not pretend) that you are interested to what your date is saying. The reason why you should not pretend to be listening because your date might end up talking more about him or her rather than making it a stimulating conversation. Among those topics that are great in date conversations are work, hobbies, books, music, movies, and sports. Do not talk or ask about politics, religion, and especially former relationships.

Look at them in the eyes – Eye contact spells out your interest and attention towards your date.
Have fun – Remember that the date should be fun. Bring laughter into the conversation by bringing out your sense of humor through jokes. Make every activity light and happy. However, if you see that your date isn't laughing at your jokes, don't tell another one.

Blind dates can be nerve-wracking. You have probably read some horrible blind dates on the web or, worse, on TV. But having a blind date doesn't have to be that bad. It is supposed to
be an exciting way to meet new people to hang out with, or even end up on a relationship with. So don't feel frustrated, as here are some useful tips that you need for that successful blind date:

Prepare yourself - First impressions always last, and it's really important to create that good impression on your blind date. How your date sees you within just minutes of meeting you sets the stage for the entire date.
That is why you should first give importance to your appearance and grooming. Remember, you only have one chance at that first impression, so make a good one. Select clothing that is appropriate for your date. Select a casual get-up for a lunch date or going to the movies; or put on something more dressy when planning for a nice dinner date.
Also, do not wear clothes that are too revealing, strange, or over the top.Get a new haircut or hairstyle, which is most advisable a day before the date. For women, it is best to have your hair styled at the salon several hours before meeting your blind date. Wear an ample amount of perfume or cologne. Do not overdo it though. Don't forget to shine your shoes and iron your clothes if needed. Most important, arrive early. Showing up on your date late can affect your date's impression on you.
Keep yourself safe - Even if blind date can be fun, you should never let your guard down.
Consider a public place for your date venue like a restaurant or a park. In that way, you would feel more relaxed in getting along with your blind date. Make sure that a friend knows where you will be and at what time. Also, tell your friend the name of your date. Carry a cell phone with you at all times. Use it to call emergency when needed.
Keep your first date short- A simple short date is a great way to meet someone on a blind date, especially if you are meeting someone for the first time. If you do not feel the connection or chemistry with your date, you can simply make an exit right after. However, if you are interested, you can stick around some more or arrange to meet up again in the future. Some recommended options for a short date include meeting up for coffee, a drink date in the evening, or a lunch date during the weekday.
Keep your schedule flexible- Make sure that your first blind date would not coincide with other concerns such as work, especially if you are planning to make your date longer. Flex
your schedule with additional activities with your partner such as going to the movies, dancing at the club, or joining a group activity such as yoga classes.
Be polite
Whether the date goes well or bad, being polite with your date creates a mark on your personality. Greet your date with a handshake upon meeting with him or her. Starting it off with a kiss may send the wrong message. Smile, even if you are nervous. Be a gentleman. Open doors, hang up her coat, pull out her chair. Even today when chivalry is a dying trait among men, it is best to provide respect to your date.
Women should always be thankful. Be grateful after he opens the door for you, thank him after he pull out a chair for you. Be polite even when you are about to leave the date if you feel like it isn't going well. You could tell your date that, for instance, you have to leave early because you need to work right after. However, if your date seems to be working, just “scrap” the plan and stay on with your date.
Be yourself
One of the biggest mistakes that people make on a blind date is that they try to be someone that they aren't. Just be honest and be yourself. Answer questions honestly and talk about yourself without exaggerating facts. Remember that your date wants to know who you are, not who your date wants you to be.
Talk and listen- Conversation is extremely important in making your blind date a success.
Ask about your date's career, family, even about his or her friends. Remember to keep the topics light, aiming at getting to know more about your date. Also, let your date talk and you should listen. Show an interest to what he or she is saying. Don't forget to talk back and create a conversation, or else it would become a long and boring date.
Mind your language- First impressions do not only focus on your appearance, but also on the way you communicate both verbal and non-verbal. Your date may scrutinize your tone of voice, the words that you use, and even how your body reacts. As we said before, just be yourself. Do not be to stiff, instead you should relax and react appropriately. Also, don't forget to keep your eyes on your date, not on others around you. Another good body language is to face your belly button towards your date, an indication that you are interested to him or her.

Women have wondered what do men want in a woman? Was is really all about blond hair and big breasts? Well, not all the time. However, focusing too much on the physical will only get you accepted on the surface level. A little more inch on your waist, and your man may search for a new girl. In order to get a quality man, you have to be a quality woman. Here are some qualities of what most men want for their woman:
Honest and trustworthy – Men want a woman who is not likely to sneak around and sleep with other guys.

Similar interests – It is best that a woman has similar interests as his. For instance, a man is into skydiving and he wants his woman to have the same passion for adventure. Even if the woman hasn't been skydiving, the man can teach her how to, which the woman would gladly learn.

Presentable appearance – As we said, it's not all about the blond hair and big breasts. What's important is you have good appearance and health. For example, you have clear, bright eyes; a proportionate body (even plus-sized women should retain that “hour-glass” figure); shiny hair; clean nails and body.
An air of mystery – Men like classy women more because they are intriguing, mysterious, and alluring. It also creates an impression that you are hard to get, that men should really pursue you in order to win your affection. For starters, you could dress up appropriately and in style.
Remember that there is a huge difference between sexy and sleazy. Unfortunately, many women don't know the difference (and, sadly, men do).

Sense of humor – At the end of the day, humor will keep the relationship running. Having a nice laugh and be able to react positively towards jokes can surely tame a man's heart.
Intelligence and personality – Women should have a right mix of the two. Men like intelligent women with a positive attitude. Strong but not high maintenance. Most men prefer relaxed, yet confident women.

Money-wise – Men respect a woman who is able to manage money. She doesn't impulsively swipe her man's credit card wherever she pleases. She knows where to spend and where to save. Wise money management makes a woman good budget-spenders once she becomes a wife.

Faithful – A good man deserves a good woman. Keep yourself faithful with your man, and your relationship can go places.

Comfortable with her own sexuality – A woman should be aware that she is her man's desire. She could appear as meek as a lamb, but becomes a wild horse when she's in an intimate moment with her man.

Men find women a mystery. No matter how many women you may have met, chances are you still do not understand them. But women do have their wants towards their men, and here are some of them.
Confidence – This can be portrayed in numerous ways, from the “preppy and intelligent” guy to the “sporty” type to the “bad boy” image. What's important is that you are showing to women that you are strong and independent.
A gentleman – Even at this day and age, good guys can finish first. Be that kind of a man who opens the doors for her, that walks on the right side of the street, holds shopping bags for her, offer her your jacket when it's cold. Real men are respectful of women. A good sense of humor – Make her laugh and avoid being boring.

A good listener – Women talk a lot, and they need their man to listen. However, listening to her includes answering back to her conversations, saying your opinion about certain topics.
Sensitive – Women want to be treated like a woman, not like a man. Even if your girl drinks beer just like the rest of the boys, she is aware that she would rather be treated like a queen by her king.

Faithful – This may be tough, but sticking with your relationship add big points to her. This means that not only that you should not cheat on her, but also not to delve on your past relationships during your discussions.

A friend, not just a lover – A man may be the best lover, but if he is not the best companion then the relationship would be heading nowhere. Be there for her on her bad times. Be attentive to her needs.

Ambition – Women love men who know what they want and how they get it.
Full of thoughtful surprises – Give her gifts that show you were listening when she mentioned her favorite candy bar, the new CD she wants or when she stopped at that jewelry counter to admire a beautiful necklace. This also include simple tasks like making her coffee.
In good shape – You don't have to be super-ripped in order to attract her attention. Just be in good health and good shape would surely catch her eye.
A good financial situation – It's not just because women are after your credit card, but because most women tend to “see their future” with their men. A man with a sound finance is portrayed as the provider of the family.
Be stylish – Just as women are concerned about how they look, they also take concern on how their men dress up. You don't have to be some fashionista, just a basic knowledge of dressing for the right occasion or mixing and matching the right colors works just fine.

Being ignored or overlooked when you really want to make a connection with someone can hurt deeply. Chances are, it's probably happened to most people at one time or another. If you like meeting new people but afraid of being rejected in the process, here are some advices that you should take.



Not every response you get is a judgment of who you are – It's possible the people you are meeting are not ignoring you out of meanness. Sometimes, people might seem uninterested when they are actually distracted, stressed, or even tired.



Ignore rude people – If people are rude to you on purpose, they're probably not great people for relationships.



Do not anticipate rejection – Show your interest towards the other person before beginning a conversation. Some people may fail to notice that you are looking to engage them. You might feel rejected, but they may not realized that you're interested. Aside from shaking hands, use eye contact, ask some friendly questions, and positive body language.



Do not come out too strong – People might perceive you as overwhelming. If you're working to gain approval from every person you interact with, people might sense that and feel uncomfortable or pressured.



Relax – Do not feel so emotionally invested in every interaction. It's hard not to care what people think, but maybe you could try to worry less about it.



Have humor – It can help diffuse tension, and it's good to remind yourself that you are a great person. Even though it may sound and feel hypocritical, try to be upbeat when you feel down. Focusing on negatives isn't likely to accomplish anything.



Seek common ground – Sometimes, parties or bars can add social pressures or distractions that make connecting harder. Maybe you would have more luck if you tried meeting people through a club or organization, a volunteer projects, or a sports team. Having an activity to engage in together might make the interaction flow more easily.

In contrast to knowing what men want, you should also be aware of what qualities that makes men turn-off towards women. Avoid the following circumstances:
Getting drunk – The society may accept men getting drunk, but not women. Looking at it, drunk women are not sexy.
Discussing your health problems – Most men have no idea how your body works, and telling them about your menstrual cramps may make them feel uncomfortable.
Making negative comments about men in general – Quotes like “The only good men in the world are either married or gay” would surely have men's ears blaring. A “business-like” attitude – We agree that women can achieve more than men, even in the field of business. However, this professional yet snobbish attitude should not be imposed when you are dating around with men. Remember that men have insecurities, and an overpowering female would
not help at all.
Talking about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend – Past is past. Your relationship is all about “now,” not “then.” Avoid comparing your present relationship with your previous ones either.
Talking extensively about yourself – Women talk more than men and it's usually about themselves. You can talk endlessly with your girl friends, but not with men. When talking, make sure that you still show your interest in him.

Asking too many questions – Remember that this is a date, not a job interview. Start with a question, he answers with his opinion, then answer with your opinion. One-sided conversations may lead a man to boredom.
Dressing inappropriately – You can dress sexily, but there is a huge difference between sexy and sleazy. For instance, you can wear short skirts, but do not pair it with knee-high boots. Dressing up like a sidewalk prostitute would not make men take you seriously. Applying too much make-up – Most men would rather see your “natural beauty” than your “clowned-up beauty.”
Being materialistic – Talking to men about shopping or your favorite shoes may give a wrong impression that you are selfish when it comes to relationships.

Aside from knowing what women want, you should also be aware of what steers them off from your direction. Here are some things that would definitely turn them off.
Flirting with other women – Even if you are on the dating phase, flirting—or even looking—
at other women signify that you are not interested with your date.
Getting drunk, in front of her – You can be really drunk while with your friends watching football, but getting drunk with her can be a little awkward. Besides, what if you vomit?
Talking about ex-girlfriend or ex-wives – Past is past. Your relationship is all about “now,” not “then.” Avoid comparing your present relationship with your previous ones either.
Calling people while on a date – Remember to put your mobile phone on silent mode and not talk to your colleagues when dating her. Remember that you should focus your full attention to her during the date or whenever you are together.

Eating quickly – This is especially if the both of you are eating at the restaurant together. You are somewhat giving a message to the girl that you are in a hurry to get away from her. Take your time and enjoy the meal with her.
Complaining about costly dates – Ranting on how expensive the dinner is would definitely become your last date with her. Also, please don't ask her to pay half of the dinner (she would pay part of the dinner if she wants to).

A braggart – Boasting too much about your job, your car, or your educational achievements, would surely bore most women.
Trying too hard to impress her – Complementing too much, dressing up in styles you are uncomfortable with, or lying your way to impress her do not score well.
Talking to much – Men tend to talk more when they are interested towards women, but not allowing the women to contribute to the conversation would be a definite turn-off.
Saying the wrong words – Even if you do not mean it, certain phrases have negative suggestions when asked to women:
· Avoid asking questions that involve around her past love interests, such as “How long has it been since you last dated,” “What kind of guy was he,” or “What happened?”.
· Looking too ahead with woman is also a bad idea, such as “How many kids do you want,” especially on the first date.
· Sarcastic comments towards her would never have her ask for a second date. Do not vent out quotes like “It is dinner, not an interview.”

First, let's make an agreement: men are forever different from women. For instance, men are more visual than women and they respond more effectively and quickly to visual stimuli. Let's
apply that to romance. Men are attracted to the physical aspects of women, but you don't have to be super-pretty just to catch their attention. Just follow our suggestions and you will be fine.



Smile – Men tend to notice a woman's smile before their eyes move around elsewhere. You have to remember that men have their insecurities and they usually approach women whom they feel would “welcome” them. Smiling is like saying, “Hi! Let's have some coffee!” or “Would you like coffee or me?”



Make eye contact – The eyes are said to be windows to the soul, and you want to make sure he know you're trying to get inside his soul. Check his body language – Body signals are good indicators of how he feels about you more than anything he may say verbally. The eyes are the
biggest giveaway when it comes to seduction of either sex. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than you would normally expect, then chances are he's quite interested.



Flirt using your body – Answer back his interest by making some body language of your own. You don't have to overly-suggestive. It is best to portray that you are not so easy. A little combing the hair along the ears or a faint smile will do.



Ask about what surrounds him, not about him – Men tend to talk more about other things but himself. You should ask about recent events, or talk about his immediate surroundings, or even about the weather. The conversation would get some momentum (as long as you listen and answer to him) until the guy would feel comfortable into talking about himself.




Show your sincerity – Remember that you are not trying to impress him with how clever you are, you are trying to communicate a sincere interest in him.



Let the guys talk more – Men are not talkative by nature. If he talks more, then probably he is interested to you. Try to keep the focus on him. You should guide the conversation by asking questions. Offer bits of information about yourself, as they relate to what you are saying, but don't dwell on yourself.

Attracting someone's attention is really about applying the science of body language. One essential thing that you must do when talking to a hot prospect you are interested in is to flirt with her. Even the most subtle movements can be considered a form of flirting, all it takes is confidence. Here are some suggestions that you should follow.
Smile – This is probably the easiest form of flirting. It brings out your positivity and you are indicating that you are interested to the person you are talking with. But unlike a “regular”smile, a “flirty” smile should be wider than you are used to. Practice your smile in the mirror and check how to smile without looking too scary.
Get caught looking at her – It may seem to be something shy guys tend to do, but looking away can be flirty. If you want to know to let her know you are interested, just look at her face. When she catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact for a moment, then look away.
Wave a little – Another way of flirting if you get caught looking at a hot girl is to give a little wave. Move your hand a little and smile. It's saying “hello” in a non-intrusive yet very flirty manner.
Wink – Giving a quick and sweet wink can be done with someone from across the room, or at someone during a conversation. However, it is best not to wink excessively. If she says or does something she might view as embarrassing, you can give out a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you.

Holding eye contact – While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. Looking—not staring— at each other's eyes can make a brief, yet intimate moment between the two of you.
Touch lightly – You can touch your prospect without harassing the girl. This can be as simple as placing your hand lightly on her hand for a moment, or touching her back for a moment as you walk to a table to sit down. Touching is actually a good indicator to know if the girl is interested
to you: if she pulls away, then she could either be not interested or just not wanting to go on a deeper level yet.
Check her body out – Checking out her body must be done properly. The goal is for you new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her fabulous body, not seen as some piece of meat. Do this by making eye contact, then passing your eyes down for a nano-second, and then back to
her eyes. However, do not do this too often in a single conversation.
Do the “goodbye compliment” – If you are really shy to approach a girl, you could simply go near her before you leave and say something like, “Hi, I have to go now, but before I did, I really wanted to let you know that you have a really great smile, and I noticed that. I wish I had more time to spend with you, but I have to go.” After doing your “goodbye compliment,” leave as soon as possible even if the girl wants you to stay some more. This allows you to build your confidence in approaching women without having to take the risk of rejection. If the girl seems interested to you, ask for her phone number.
Know when to stop – Remember to stop flirting while it is still fun. Flirting too often during a conversation may make you appear as cheesy. If you stop flirting on a high point, your new friend may feel good when thinking of you, and want to see you again.

In dating, being yourself is not enough. Like how animals show off towards the opposite sex during mating season, humans also tend to show certain actions to indicate that they are attracted towards another person. This is the art of flirting, and you don't have to be a moviestar-lookalike to make the guys (or girls) go gaga.
For women, the key is to look approachable enough for men to feel comfortable in taking a risk. Meanwhile, men should showcase their masculinity. Here are the essential flirting techniques that you should take note.

Smile – This is the most basic, and absolutely the most effective tool, of flirting. Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive is to show off those whites. Although normal smiling can do wonders, singles usually smile wider when flirting. If a lady locks eyes and smiles at a guy for more than three times in an evening, chances are that she's interested.
Eye contact – We tend to look into the eyes of people we are attracted with, as it is a universal sign of openness. An effective way for a woman to make use of eye contact is to lock eyes with the person she's flirting with for about five to six seconds, then smile and drop her gaze. Remember that looking at his eyes is different from staring at them. This technique involves smoldering, come-hither looks. Do this stare-and-look-away technique at least three times in a ten to fifteen minute-period so that they would send a message to a guy that it is him you're flirting with.

Preening – We tend to preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we're attracted to someone either by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our lipstick in a compact, or straightening a tie. Try combining a groom gesture with a smile and a gaze. Women should also toss their hair to one side. Not only does it suggest grooming, but also exposes their neck.
Red lips – Men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex, and fertility. The color red has been known to increase a man's heart rate. For women, wearing a red lipstick is a must. Not only it gives the lips that youthful color, but also makes the smile more visible and your teeth whiter. Adding a coat of super-shiny lip gloss makes the lips look moist and kissable. Meanwhile, men can also put on some lip gloss or try licking their lips (make it subtle as to avoid being misinterpreted) or biting the lower lip.
Women crossing their legs – Crossing and uncrossing the legs is another surefire flirting technique for women, especially if they are wearing high heels. The act of crossing the legs is quite seductive to men, as it makes them desire to see more. Another seduction trick using the legs involve s slipping a heel out of one shoe and dangling it on the toes. The arch of the foot sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves.

Women showing off their neck – One of the most effective flirting technique a woman can use is to expose her neck. This is done in different ways, from tilting the head to one side, flipping the hair, or glancing over the shoulder.
Men squaring their shoulders – Women are attracted to more dominant men, so men should stand tall with their shoulders back. For men who have always touted as the “nice guy” or appear to be too submissive to attract women, try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles and clothing. Hold the head up, speak a little faster, and make gestures more assertive.
Men showing off their social status – Men assert themselves when they flirt with women. Not only do they correct their posture, but they also push the assertiveness a little further by showing their social status by, for instance, showing-off cash, speaking about their occupation, and displaying their car.
Feet placement – Subtly make yourself a safe and approachable target. Women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward to make them approachable. Meanwhile, men should appear more dominant by standing with the feet 6 to 10 inches apart with toes pointed outward.
Mimicking – People mirror each other's body language when they are attracted with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. Try subtly mimicking your flirting target's behavior. For instance, if she leans forward, you lean forward as well. Mirroring someone's behavior makes your potential date feel as though the two of you are connected and in-tune. Deepening the attraction – Once you and your flirting target have started talking, fortify your flirting to deepen the attraction. Smile and maintain eye contact as they are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are saying. Nod in approval to signal that you're listening to what the other person has to say. Smile or laugh at the right time to put your potential date at ease. Another flirting technique while talking is low-level touching like bushing the shoulder or elbow.

Follow these tips to increase your confidence levels:



Make a list – List all the things you are not comfortable with about yourself.



Be honest - Think about which things you think people may not like about you. Ask to your best friend.



Evaluate yourself - Evaluate the way you look and the way you dress. Change the most basic
aspects of your looks, lifestyle and regime you will instantly feel more confident.



Feel comfortable - Ensure you are comfortable with any changes you make. Your confidence will grow as you feel better about yourself. Take care of yourself - Make sure you are in shape or attempting to be. If you are dieting or exercising remember to be patient as these changes,
though dramatic, will take a little while.



Do what you always want to do - Start doing the things you wish you had always had the courage to do. Maybe a hobby or sport. Stay positive - Learn to enjoy the little things in life and give yourself time for these things. Don't wait for others to do something. Walk away from anything you don't like and keep a positive attitude. Do not allow negative family comments to influence you in any way.



Stay your priority – Put yourself first as priority number one. By feeling good about yourself your life has already changed for the better and your confidence levels are on the up.



Select your friends - Be selective about what kind of person you really like and want to keep around you. Keep positive and honest people tan make you feel good about yourself.



Start dating - If someone has asked you out, accept. Be proactive and ask someone out yourself who you like. Remember, you have to try and don’t be worried the person say no. Many will also say yes.



Be sociable - Become sociable and look every opportunity. Make conversation with the nice people you meet along the way.



Select the right person - Remember that your confidence levels will become sky high by people saying yes to you. This will happen when you select the right kind of person for you.

How you present your self in a date is not just on the looks and the moves, but also on how you talk. A good conversationalist presents his or her personality and intelligence towards the date.
However, starting a conversation with someone you have just met is not always easy. Here's our guide to making contact and some tips on taking things further.
People like to be flattered – Try to pick something unique about them and bring it up in the conversation. This would grab their interest and give them something to talk about when they reply. For instance, “I see that you have a great taste for Italian wine. I love wine. Do you know that they have a good selection of wine here?”
Make the person laugh – Whether in the pub or online, humor is a great icebreaker. Use it to bring a smile to their face and let them know that you are fun to be with.
Be interested – Listen to what the other person says about himself or herself, barging in to prevent your date to talk too much. This also applies to you, as you are not supposed to rattle about yourself too much.

Give compliments – Do not be afraid to use compliments to win over your potential mate. However, do not overdo it as too much is not good.

Plan the next step – If you decide that you want to take things further, it's time to ask for a phone number. Remember to keep safety in mind. If the person doesn't feel comfortable giving you his or her phone number, you could suggest giving yours.

If you like someone and want to know them more, you may have to ask them for a date. This is a standard practice for men, and it is increasingly becoming common among women. If you have
someone in mind that you would love to go out with, breathe deeply and follow these guidelines.
Ask yourself first – Know why you are asking them out and if it is for the right reasons. Recognize your expectations as a result of them saying yes or no.
Saying no is a possibility – Be prepared that the person you ask may say no. If this happens, do not take the rejection personally and do not chase them as well. They maybe thinking of things and get back to you with a “yes” later.
Choose the right moment – See to it that the person you are asking is in a light mood. At certain instances, do not approach them when they are stressed out after work, while eating, or while with a group of friends.
Practice what you should say – Don’t think of the cheesiest pick-up line imaginable. A simple “Hi! My name is…and I was wondering if you are free for lunch today?” is enough. Practice what you might say in advance so that you don’t appear tongue-tied.
Do not ask with open-ended questions – Phrases like “Do you want to go out?” can lead to awkward follow-up conversations.
Do not ask with vague questions – Do not give a vague impression on your prospective date with questions such as “What are you doing Saturday night?”
Avoid asking them out while drunk – You may think that taking a shot before asking would boost your courage level, actually it’s not. It would backfire, too.
Prepare the place, date, and time, in advance – Before asking them out, be sure that you already have an idea where and when your date would be, just in case they say yes. In this way, you are showing that you are thoughtful.
Create a sense of trust immediately – If the person asks you why you want to date them, flatter about his or her personality. People can be wary and may want to know some reason behind your request. If she hesitates, try asking her to bring each other's friends along.
Know what you are going to say – Tell your prospect what you want to suggest doing on the date. The other person will be more comfortable if they know exactly what you're intentions are and what you want to do.
Do not pressure them into saying yes – If they want to think about it, let them. But don’t chase.
Smile – Bring out your positive personality. Be confident and happy to elicit a far more positive response.

Prepare for an alternative schedule – If they are unsure about their schedule, or your proposed date schedule conflicts theirs, provide a different date and time or location.
Intend to go on your date – Standing people up is a definite no-no in dating.

No matter how you improve yourself physically, you wouldn't find a date unless you go out and meet new people. Test your confidence and venture into these different venues where you can
find a potential date.


Public parks – Different interesting people gather in public parks for relaxation and recreation. However, not all people go to parks in search for a date. What you can do is to trying to blend in with other people's interests. For instance, you find a group of people playing tag football, ask them if you can join in. In that way, you meet a lot of different people either as a potential date or friends whom someday would refer to you a potential date.


Beach – Public beaches tend to gather people with the most gorgeous bodies. It takes a lot of confidence—not to mention showing your tanned body—when meeting potential dates on the beach.


Dance clubs – People who look for relationships tend to end up hitting the clubs. Dance is a great expression of your confidence. Try asking a girl to dance with you, or apply your flirting techniques when you spot a really hot guy. Just remember to stay sober and safe.


School/ College – If you're still in school, either in high school or college, you can find a potential date among your schoolmates. You can either flirt your way to her heart or joining in a club where he is a part of.


Online – Consider this as a virtual form of going-out. Join in dating chatrooms and message boards and get to meet a lot of people over the Internet. However, with the anonymity factor of the Net, remember to keep your guard.


Places of interest – If you have a particular interest, try visiting places where you would spot a lot of people whose interests are similar to yours. For instance, comic book lovers would want to go to comic conventions, while art enthusiasts may want to go to museums.


Any random place – Nobody can tell where you would find a potential match. There would be times when you'd spot an interesting person in the most unusual of places, such as on the street, while riding public transportation, or even in a laundromat.

Being attractive does not only come from the surface, but also from within.
That inner confidence is what attracts people—no matter what clothes you wear or education you have attained—and you can develop your positivity by doing the following tips.
Be relaxed – Do not stress yourself. People with a relaxed demeanor have loads of spare
mental capacity to make jokes, ask questions, smile, and generally be a pleasant person to be around.
Be giving – Work on becoming someone who focuses on giving to others. You can either do
volunteer work or donate to charity, even both. This would naturally result in others wanting to
be around you.

Be positive – No one like to be around a negative person. Attractive people have a tendency to always see the positive in just about everything. Make the best out of any situation and focus on finding solutions instead of complaining about the problem.
Be caring, both to yourself and others – Attractive people understand that if they do not take care of themselves, they won't have anything to give to other people.

Taking that first kiss with your date is a wonderful and special experience. Make it a moment that you would remember for the rest of your life. Read our easy tips on how to kiss.


Be aware of a great opportunity to kiss – If you have a really fantastic date with a person who really made you feel happy and special, then it's best to show your gratitude by kissing your date at a very opportune time. One good instance is when you find that your date makes your truly happy during an activity together, or you can give your date a soft kiss on the lips before saying goodbye on a great date.


Take your kiss when the two of you are ready – You can tell from your date's body language if he or she would expect a kiss from you. To approach for that kiss, it's important that you wait for that right moment, such as being alone or when you are in a fun situation. All you have to do is to look into your date's eyes, lean forward, put your hands around your date's neck, and let the rest flow by itself.


Subtly tell your date that you want to be kissed – Show your date that you want to be kissed through your body language.


Hug your date and feel his or her reaction – Give your date a hug and sense how he or she reacts to you in order to have an idea whether or not your date is interest to you. Once you have your date in your arms, try kissing him or her on the cheek or on the neck. If your date tries to avoid it, then don't push it.

When you're ready to French kiss, lean toward your date with your head tilted slightly to avoid bumping noses. Men may put wrap their arms around a date's waist; women may wrap their
arms around a date's neck.



• Make eye contact as you lean toward one another but close your eyes as the lips meet. Inadvertent eye-contact mid-kiss can be quite awkward.


• As you lean in for the kiss, have your lips parted ever so slightly and inhale through your mouth to heighten the senses and to avoid breathing on your date.


• Allow your lips to brush against each others to create light, feathery kisses. Keep the tongue in your mouth initially.


• As the kiss warms up, allow your tongue to flicker onto your date's lips. Don't let your tongue linger - keep the flickers quick and gentle.


• If your date responds in kind, let your tongue extend back toward his or her tongue. Keep the movement light and gentle - tongue wrestling is a no-no.


• Breathe through your nose as your tongues touch playfully and sensually.


• Remember, fresh breath is essential. Avoid smelly foods (garlic, brie cheese, corn chips, coffee) beforehand. Freshen up with a mint or gum, making sure to dispose of the gum before kissing.

Kissing is not a science, but there sure is a way of doing it. If you and your partner are beginning to explore each other’s sexuality for the first time, the first kisses may look awkward. But with
these simple tips, you can give your partner mind-blowing French kisses in no time.
Start with a few pecks – Begin your kissing session with soft kisses on the cheek, neck, lips,
even on the eyelids, where there are sensitive spots. Slowly build it up until both of you are ready for a more intimate, open-mouth kiss.
Use the tongue – In a French kiss, both people use their tongues. How you use your tongue is
entirely up to you, but it requires a certain amount of skill. Don’t just stick your tongue and do nothing. Use your tongue to gently explore your partner’s mouth and play with his tongue as well. If you think you have a long tongue, why not try using it to tickle your partner’s palette (the roof of his or her mouth)?

Take short breaks – Let go of your kiss (but not too far from your partner’s face) for a few seconds to come up for air and swallow your own saliva.
Avoid clanking each other’s teeth – Teeth clanking happens most often when both of you fail to tilt your heads slightly to one side, or when your mouth are a little too open. If this happens, just laugh it off and start all over. In time, you will figure out how to avoid hitting your partner’s teeth.

Do not bite the tongue – Not only does it hurt, it would probably end your kissing session. If you feel like nibbling, you should do it at your partner’s lower lip, but not too hard. Conversely, if your partner bites your tongue and it hurts, tell him or her that it does not feel good.

Just enjoy your kiss – Kissing should be enjoyable for both people involved. Ask your partner gently what he or she likes in the way you kiss, and tell your partner what you want from him or her as well. Remember, the more you kiss, the better you get at it.

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Sex is a natural human instinct, and it is understandable that you would have sensual feelings towards your partner. However, remember the countless reminders about keeping yourself safe during sex or abstaining from sex before marriage.



Readiness in sex depends from person to person – It is very important that you do not feel pressured into having sex with your partner. You may want to reserve your virginity until
marriage or would rather give in to a partner whom you feel a deep connection with. Also, remember that you are not supposed to have sex with your partner just for the sake of keeping the relationship.



Keep yourself safe – This means avoiding the physical risks of unprotected sex such as unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. There are also emotional risks such as
regret you may feel afterwards.



Respect your partner's view on sex – You may feel like you need to express your love sexually towards your partner, but he or she would rather preserve their virginity until marriage. In that case, learn to respect your partner's beliefs, but at the same time explore possible intimate activities that you and your partner can do together such as kissing, sensual massages, masturbation, oral sex among others.