When Do Teens Start Dating
When are teens ready to date? At some point in adolescence most teens begin to date. This is an important and personal decision. In the eye of a teenager, dating is a field full of flowering opportunities.
Best age to begin dating - There is no best age for teens to begin dating. Every person will be ready for a dating relationship at a different time. Different families may have certain rules about dating, too.
Before to start a relationship - You should first, get to know a person by talking on the phone or at school before you go out for the first time. Relationships should start with good communication, honesty, and respect.
When you decide to start a relationship - it should be because you care about someone and not because you feel like you have to start dating. A dating relationship is a special chance to get to know someone, and share your thoughts and feelings with each other.
Have a healthy relationship - Healthy relationships are about feeling good about who you are and feeling safe with another person. The most important part of any healthy relationship between two people is being able to talk and listen to one another. You can share your feelings with the other person and trust that they will be there to listen and support you.
Don’t feel uncomfortable - You should never feel pressured to do something that you don't want to do. The other person should always respect your right to say no to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. It is important that you are honest with each other about what you will and will not do.
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Question To Ask Before Marriage
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:
Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
Will there be a television in the bedroom?
Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
What does my family do that annoys you?
Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
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10 Nice Things You Can Do For Him
There are amazing nice things that you can do for the man in your life to let him know how much he means to you. This is all about concerning for his personality and hobbies to demonstrate
that you care about him. Surprise your man with these thoughtful and tailored gestures.
Have his car professionally detailed
Many men take pride in their car and enjoy spreading their time to make sure it looks and runs
its best. You can let him know that you understand his fascination with his car by making the
arrangements to have the car detailed. If he will be out of town for a few days, try making the
arrangements so that it will be a surprise for him when he returns. If you are unable to do this in
secret, go ahead and let him know about your plans.
Complete a chore that he does in the house
If he usually takes care of mowing the lawn, plan to come home from work early one day to mow the lawn before he gets home. He will not only be excited to not having to take care of this chore but will also be excited that you recognize the effort he puts forth into completing this chore.
Purchasing a gadget
Many men enjoy all types of gadgets and figuring out one that he is interested in and purchasing it for him will be a very welcomed gift. It will also show him that you were paying attention while
he was talking about this gadget and you understand how much it means to him.
Meeting him at work
Surprising the man in your life is another nice thing you can do for him. Take him out to lunch and spend some extra time with each other. The element of surprise will let him know that you are thinking of him. Also, having a break in his day where he can relax and enjoy your company will make the rest of the day seem to go by much more quickly for him.
Take control of plans for a date
Men are usually the ones who are in charge of planning and paying for dates so he will be grateful for you making date arrangements for a night. Carefully plan out a fun date filled
with activities that he will enjoy and don't rely on him to take care of any details, even in paying for the date. The man in your life will feel pampered for the evening and will enjoy having the stress of date planning off his shoulders.
Pick up a magazine or book of his interest
Doing so would let him know that you understand his interest and that you want him to have some time to enjoy thinking about his favorite hobby. Learn about his favorite sport – He may enjoy spending his weekends watching his favorite sports teams and, if you are not normally a fan of this sport, you will surprise him by taking an active interest. Try doing some research on your own to learn a little more about his favorite sport and team and the next time he is watching a game, sit with him and ask pertinent questions. He would be astonished at you knowledge and eager to teach you more.
Buy him flowers
Women receive flowers for special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all. However, men don't often receive flowers so showing up with a bouquet for him will be a welcomed surprise. He
would appreciate the novelty of the gift and be delighted with the gesture. Purchase tickets to see his favorite band in concert – While his type of music may not be your first choice, it's something he enjoys so give him a chance to indulge himself. He would be excited to share his music with you and will be glad that you are interested in hearing the music with him.
Learn to barbecue
Many men enjoy barbecued foods, and they would also appreciate the opportunity to indulge in them without having to do any of the work. Preparing a barbecue would let him know that you realize it's a meal he enjoys and that you appreciate the effort he usually puts forward to
prepare his meal.
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10 Nice Things You Can Do For Her
Demonstrate your love for the special woman in your life in a number of small deeds. For starters, flowers and candy on special occasions are always nice, but you can also surprise a woman by offering smaller gestures on a daily basis. She would appreciate your thoughtfulness and understand that you are trying to how her how much she means to you. Here are some good examples.
Ask her how her day was
Women enjoy talking about their personal issues and expressing an interest in her career or other areas will be greatly appreciated. Listening carefully to her would let her know that you are fascinated in her thoughts and care about her feelings. Cook for her – Most women are the primary cooks in the relationship and giving her a night off from her usual kitchen duties is always a welcomed gesture. Don't worry if you don't know how to cook, it's really not that hard. There are many cook books and Internet sites that offer a wide variety of recipes.
Remember and celebrate a small occasion
It's nice to celebrate on big occasions but if you remember the anniversary of another special day, the woman in your life would be completely caught by surprise. For instance, celebrate the anniversary of the day you brought home your new puppy with a trip to a dog park.
Give her compliments
Women tend to expect compliments when they put a lot of effort into their appearance, but letting her know that you think she is beautiful while she's running errands demonstrates that you see her inner beauty shining through all times. Compliments don't always have to be about physical characteristics. You could compliment her on her career accomplishments, for example.
Handing over the remote control
You may not want to sit through another episode of a home decorating show, but allowing the woman in your life to indulge in this without complaining about her choice would show her that you are not belittling her interests. Get to know her family and friends – Your woman values their relationships and she would be pleased about the fact that you are taking interest and getting to know the other special people in her life.
Write her a love letter
Send your love letter through mail. Sure she sees you almost every day and may even exchange e-mails and phone call on a daily basis, but a love letter is something that she can save in a special place and would be cherished.. Expressing your love in a letter is a special way to tell a woman that you care deeply about her.
Plan a trip
A vacation is alwas nice, but when you take the initiative and plan out all the details ahead of time, it shows that you want her to have the enjoyable experience of the trip. And at the same time, you are willing to take care of all the planning.
Surprise her at work
Show up for a lunch date. Your woman would love to be surprised and your lunch date would give her the opportunity to get out of the office for a little while and enjoy some time with you. Many woman skip lunch of work straight through it, but giving her the opportunity to break away from her desk for even a half hour would give her a welcomed chance to relax a little bit.
Open the car door for her
Women enjoy being independent, but small chivalrous gestures are always appreciated. If you normally rush to the driver's side of the car and hop in, stop once in a while to open her door first. It shows that you want to protect and care for her and would make her feel well-loved.
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Type Of Dates
* Regular date.
* Double date: two couples meet for an activity.
* Group date: an activity shared by two or more couples.
* Blind date: a date where the participants have not met each other personally before (although may have seen each other's pictures); usually set up by a third party or an internet dating service.
* Long Distance / Holidating: Due to a long distance relationship, dating only when one, or both parties are on holiday or vacation and are together during that time period.
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35 Rules Of Dating
01: Be a “Creature” Unlike Any Other
02: Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance)
03: Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much
04: Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date
05: Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls
06: Always End Phone Calls and dates First
07: Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday
08: Fill Up Your Time before the Date
09: How to Act on Dates 1,2, & 3 End the date first especially if you like him.
10: How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time
11: Always end the date first
12: Stop Dating Him if He Doesn't Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine's Day
13: Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week
14: No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date
15: Don't Rush into Sex & Other Rules for Intimacy
16: Don't Tell Him What to Do
17: Let Him Take the Lead
18: Don't Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him
19: Don’t Open Up Too Fast
20: Be Honest but Mysterious
21: Accentuate the Positive & Other Rules for Personal Ads
22: Don’t Live with a Man (or Leave Your Things in His Apartment)
23: Don't Date a Married Man
24: Slowly Involve Him in Your Family & Other Rules for Women with Children
25: Practice, Practice, Practice! (or, Getting Good at The Rules)
26: Even if You're Engaged or Married, You Still Need The Rules
27: Do The Rules, Even when Your Friends & Parents Think It's Nuts
28: Be Smart and Other Rules for Dating in High School
29: Take Care of Yourself and Other Rules for Dating in College
30: NEXT! & Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection
31: Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist.
32: Rules May Be Pulled Out of Thin Air If the Situation Requires
33: Do The Rules and You’ll Live Happily Ever After!
34: Love Only Those Who Love You
35: Be Easy to Live With
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Internet Dating For Beginners
There are lots of Internet dating sites available. Some are completely free and others are payable sites. Both type of sites has its own benefits, but lets discuss about the situation, where you have found your possible dating candidate already. I will write this article from a men's point of view, because I'm a male myself. You should avoid discussing about sex at the beginning. When you learn to know your partner better, you will learn how she would react to that kind of discussion. Most of the women are searching for serious partner with whom she would like to share her life. That means you should take care of yourself mentally and physically. Physically I mean that you should be decent looking, not necessarily own a great body shape. Women will appreciate polite and honest discussion, like the rest of us of course. Women from different cultures has their own habits and interests and it would be big bonus for you if you could learn some of their cultures. Lies has always short foot prints, so be as honest as possible. There are of course women who are after money and you should never send money to them. Good and decent women do never ask you to send money. Learn to know your partner before you are going to meet her. I wouldn't suggest meeting after two or three E-mails. Include your RECENT photos with your E-mails. Many woman stops from responding after two weeks, but don't worry. Those women are not either serious, or they have many other men in their mailing list. Just be cool and continue your search. It is always good idea to meet your partner before making any kind of commitments. Then you and your partner will know if you really match each other. Explore your experiences and visit countries other than your's. If you're disappointed to your mate, you can find other possible candidates and contacts any time.
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How To Choose A Dating Service
There are so many dating sites out there, hundreds if not thousands, how do you even begin to decide where to register and start your online dating experience?
You could just pick one at random, create a profile, and sit back and wait for the other members to beat a path to your email inbox. Who knows, you could get lucky and it might work out first time. But even a tiny bit of investigation beforehand could save a lot of time and frustration!
The trick is to be prepared. You probably wouldn't go off to buy a new car and start by trawling around dealerships at random, you would already have an idea as to what sort of car you want - how big, how fast, how much money you had to spend, and so forth. Based on these criteria you would have a good idea of which car showrooms to visit to find the right sort of vehicle for your particular needs. So the first question to ask yourself, is what do you want out of a dating site? Sounds obvious - a date! But what sort of date? Are you looking for a serious relationship possibly leading to marriage? Or are you after a casual partner and you'll see where it leads? Or perhaps you just want some uncomplicated fun. The good news is that among the myriad of services out there on the web, there is something to cater for every requirement. Some sites will suit all tastes, but there are many that specialise, and the more specific you are about what you want, the better your chances of finding it.
Before looking at the sites on offer, think about how you will write your personal profile. Jot down a paragraph or two about yourself, your interests, and your hopes for a partner. Then write a few words about what you are looking for in a potential dating match. Doing this offline will help you structure in your own mind what sort of date you are looking for, and then when you go and look at some dating sites, you'll easily be able to pick out those that offer the best chance of providing what you want. The added benefit of course is that when it comes to filling in your profile online, you will be prepared and wont be sat in front of your screen lost for words. Instead your profile will read in a very natural and honest way.
I would always recommend choosing at least two sites to register with and put your profile on, after all, they are almost all free to start with - you only need decide if you want to pay when and if someone of interest turns up and you want to make contact.
Websites like The Dating WebReview can also save you time. The reviews will quickly give you an idea about the services each dating site offers, and whether they specialise.
Choosing an internet dating site isn't difficult. In the end it comes down to finding one that you enjoy using. After all, if it appeals to your taste, then you already have something in common with the other members.
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DATING
Dating is any social activity performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of agreeing on a time and "date" when a pair can meet and engage in some social activity.In many cultural traditions, dates are arranged by a third party, who may be a family member, an acquaintance, or a dedicated matchmaker. Recently matchmaking services have become popular. Although dating rules in Western popular culture have become more relaxed during the 20th century, there is considerable variation between individuals' values. For example, when the activity costs money, it has traditionally been the man's role to pay; in recent times the practice of "going Dutch" (splitting the expenses) has emerged. Traditional dating activities include sharing entertainment or a meal. In general, a person may date many different partners during the same time period in order to have the best chance of finding their most suitable available mate.
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Meet Your Girlfriend / Boyfriend Parents
It might seem like a huge mountain to be climbing: how do you impress your sweetheart parents? It comes down to few things which you can improve upon in order to get their approval.
Dress to impress - Going to meet your girlfriend or boyfriend parents, you need to be presentable. Take a good shower, place your hair neatly, wash your hands before you shake hands, and make sure you have good breath. Wear some clothes that look neat and that flatter you. Don't show up wearing torn jeans and sporting some mean tattoos. Girls, make sure to don’t dress to sexy.
Be confident - When you meet them for the first time, give them a firm handshake. When it's firm, it shows you mean you feel confident.
Make good conversation - One of the most important parts of meeting parents is the conversation. Talk about what you like, use good anecdotes and appropriate jokes. Remember, to listen carefully during the conversation to know what parents say. Be ready to answer to their questions. There comes a time in every first meeting where you will be assaulted with questions. It is very important to answer most of these questions in the affirmative.
Show good manners - It's important to show good manners. Saying sir and ma'am will get you a long way, and opening doors and pulling chairs out for people is a great way to make a lasting positive first impression.
Offering to pay – Man, if you can afford it you could offer for dinner or lunch is a great way to look generous and it shows that you do not stop at anything to take care of their daughter and that you will meet her needs. Of course if you can't afford something like a big dinner for a large family, then don't worry.
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How To Plan Prom Night
Prom is a night for graduating seniors to celebrate their twelve plus years of school. It is one of the last few times that your class will get together and have a good time.
Be organized - Have a checklist of everything you need to get done for prom including your dress, activities before and after and who you are going with.
Buy your prom tickets early -Tickets do sometimes sell out for larger high schools, and prices tend to increase as the date of the dance.
Rent or buy an outfit – Men you should decide if you rent a tux and girl, if you purchase a prom dress. Shop around to gauge the best prices for rental or purchase, and make sure you have plenty of time for any required alterations.
Ask a date - Consider a classmate you've had your eye on, or simply a special friend. Prom should be enjoyed with someone you care about, so choose your date accordingly.
Plan your pre-dance dinner – Plan a dinner if needed well ahead of time. Prom night is a popular night for local restaurants, so reserve a table for you and your date at least a month prior to the event.
Reserve transportation - whether it be via limousine, party bus or use of your parents' car. Call local sedan/limo services as well as charter bus services to find the best rates. Consider sharing a limousine with two or three other couples. This will allow for a decadent atmosphere without forcing you to spend an exorbitant amount of money.
Buy camera - Buy a bunch of one time use cameras and pass them around to your friends. Set a goal to use every last picture before the night is through. Hopefully, you will want to remember this night forever.
Purchase a boutonniere or corsage for your date - Call local florists to order the arrangement based on your date's color scheme; boutonnieres and corsages should be picked up no sooner than one day prior to the dance, but you can order them ahead of time.
Be smart - Prom is a wonderful way to celebrate with your class but please don’t make choices on prom night that you will regret later. Don’t drink or use drugs as both impair your judgment, can hurt you and are illegal. You want this to be a night you can remember in a good way not a bad one.
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How To Know If A Girl Really Likes Me
How can you tell if a girl likes you or not?
There are few little signs that girls often give off that can help you to judge how well you're doing. The following are the most obvious and telling. She'll engage in elevated levels of direct eye contact when talking with you.
She'll look more directly into your eyes and hold it a little longer than normal.
She laughs at anything you say.
Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.
She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way...
She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
She laughs with you.
She touches your arm, shoulder, or hand while talking to you.
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Safe Dating Tips for Teens
First date together – You should go out with another couple or go in a group.
Don't be isolate - Stay in places where other people are near enough to hear you and to be of help. Parking in a remote spot isn't a good idea at any age.
Know your limits - Before you go on a date, think through your own limits regarding sexual contact. It's easier to stick to principles you've determined when you're calm and alone.
Express your wishes - Be wary when your relationship seems to be evolving with one person taking control or acting aggressively- this same pattern could occur in a sexual situation.
Be clear - Be very clear in communicating what you feel, beyond just saying "No." It's important to be up front and tell the person you are dating your expectations, such as discussing abstaining from sexual intercourse before you find yourself in a sexual situation. If a person you are dating wants to go further sexually than you are willing, insist that the date and/or the relationship is over. If he/she won't leave, leave your date.
Warning signs - Being manipulated, verbally put down, pushed or slapped and kept isolated from other relationships are all signs of an abusive relationship.
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Teen Ready For A Date
As a young person, dating has unique challenges. Here are some good teenage dating tips to get you started.
Practice your dating skills - You are practicing to find the right guy or the right girl. Accept that your first date wills not necessary work. If you mess up stand back and ask yourself why it went wrong. Just try to interacting successfully with the opposite sex.
Date someone make you fell good about yourself - If you do not feel good when you with someone else there is no point in being with them. You need to feel appreciated and wanted as a person and make your partner feel the same. Flattery will get you everywhere, tell your date that you appreciate the fact they have made themselves look good to go out with you.
Don’t Move Too Fast – As your parents have told you becoming physically intimate in any way will inevitably lead to complications. If and when the relationship ends, the hurt feelings and betrayal will feel much deeper and you may regret what you’ve done. It can also be awkward to find things to say after an intimate encounter, unless you’re already very close emotionally, which takes time.
Dressing for Your Date - Girls, you should be attractive and comfortable. Over-dressing or uncovering too much will give the wrong impression. You want the young man taking you out to treat you with respect, not be immediately thinking about your breasts. Remember, the most attractive asset you have is your personality, not your body.
During the date - Be prepared to listening. Everything you need to know is being told to you both verbally and non-verbally so by listening and watching for body signals you will know how things are going.
Keep all your ability - Maybe you're shy and think alcohol will make you cool. Or think a good time with your date means drinking. Avoid to drink too much alcohol because alcohol robs you of your ability to be interesting and to make smart decisions. After the Date - After your date, don’t use overkill to make sure he/she is interested. If you start calling every day or several times a day you will sound like you’re desperate and not attractive or intriguing.
After the Date - After your date, don’t use overkill to make sure he/she is interested. If you start calling every day or several times a day you will sound like you’re desperate and not attractive or intriguing.
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When Do Teens Start Dating
When are teens ready to date? At some point in adolescence most teens begin to date. This is an important and personal decision. In the eye of a teenager, dating is a field full of flowering opportunities.
Best age to begin dating - There is no best age for teens to begin dating. Every person will be ready for a dating relationship at a different time. Different families may have certain rules about dating, too.
Before to start a relationship - You should first, get to know a person by talking on the phone or at school before you go out for the first time. Relationships should start with good communication, honesty, and respect.
When you decide to start a relationship - It should be because you care about someone and not because you feel like you have to start dating. A dating relationship is a special chance to get to know someone, and share your thoughts and feelings with each other.
Have a healthy relationship - Healthy relationships are about feeling good about who you are and feeling safe with another person. The most important part of any healthy relationship between two people is being able to talk and listen to one another. You can share your feelings with the other person and trust that they will be there to listen and support you.
Don’t feel uncomfortable - You should never feel pressured to do something that you don't want to do. The other person should always respect your right to say no to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. It is important that you are honest with each other about what you will and will not do.
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Improving Your Sex Drive
Kicking your sex life to a higher notch not only would do wonders to your partner, but also improves your health. As they say, a healthy body makes a healthy sex drive. Here are some great tips that you should follow.
Consider circulation- Enhancing dishes – Foods that are high in Omega-3 fatty acids like mackerel, salmon, and wild salmon, make your nervous system function better, which in turn contributes to good circulation. Another good food to improve circulation is chilies, which also stimulates the nervous system. A healthy blood flow means that your genital area receives fresh blood that improve sexual ability and pleasure.
Go for granola – Improved circulation also means greater erectile response. To accomplish that, go for foods rich in L-Arginine like granola, oatmeal, peanuts, cashews, walnuts, dairy, green vegetables, root vegetables, garlic, ginseng, soybeans, chickpeas, and seeds. L-Arginine is helpful for improving sexual functions in men. Although there weren't studies yet connecting L-Arginine and women, remember that erectile response is not exclusive to guys as they have erections too in their clitoris and the tissue surrounding the vulva.
Try soy – Soy binds estrogen receptors, which helps the vaginal area remain lubricated and combats symptoms of menopause. It is also beneficial to the prostate, a crucial male sex organ. However, it's important to note that women who have a history of breast cancer should not eat large amounts of soy because it increases the risk of reoccurence.
Reduce weight – Foods that promote weight loss also has libido-boosting potential. Obese men tend to have erectile dysfunction and low testosterone. Reducing weight, in turn, results in an increase of testosterone, and thus an increase in sexual function.
Have the right amount of fat – Too much is bad for you, as well as too little fat because you need it to produce your hormones. Cholesterol is metabolized in the liver and you get your testosterone and estrogen, which you need for your sex drive. Monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats are the “good kind” of fats that your body needs. Olive oil, salmon, and nuts are optimal sources.
Avoiding stress – Medical and hormonal problems are major contributors to sexual dysfunction and low libido, as well as too much stress, relationship difficulties, and psychological issue. Antidepressants like Prozac can negatively affect sex drive as well.
Do some cardio endurance – Shoot for 3 to 4 days of cardio execise like running, walking, swimming. Muscular endurance – Conditioning your body can be a plus for longer lasting sex. For endurance, you will need to lift lighter weights for more repetitions.
Muscular strength – Your muscles will be contracting no matter what sexual position you are in, so it pays to shape to avoid nasty leg or foot cramps. To achieve this, lift heavier weights for few repetitions.
Flexibility – This can enhance anyone's sex life by making it a bit easier to get in your favorite position with a minimum amount of fuss. Try a little Yoga or some stretches to get you in the mood.
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Turning Sexless Marriage Into Passionate Union
Lack of intimacy is quickly overtaking financial burdens as the main reason why a majority of married couples are having their separate ways. The absence of sex among couples does not only diminish the companionship between husband and wife, but in a way it degrades an important aspect of marriage.
Let us not jump into conclusion that your husband or wife is probably cheating on someone else that is why your spouse is losing sexual interest in you. Most sexless marriages exist because it is just that: the couple—even though they love each other so much—no longer have sex with each other.
What should couples do to turn around this marriage into the passionate phase like when you were in the honeymoon period? We hope these suggestions would return the spark in your marriage.
Communication is the key – If you want your sexual relationship to be on a roll, take time to communicate with one another. Tell—and listen—to each other about your expectations, fears, desires, and concerns about your intimacy with your spouse. Remember to keep your communication honest.
Determine your spouse's sexual style and fuse it with your own – Ask your husband or wife about what he wants whenever you are having sex. Does your spouse view sex as a bond between two spirits, two minds, and two souls; or does he/ she see it as an avenue of experimentation? Whatever it is, tell your spouse how you like your sex as well. Try fusing each others likes when being intimate.
Try a different method of sexual style – Another suggestion is to try altering your sexual styles. If you tend to wait for your spouse to make the first move, why not let yourself do the initiative? Your partner would be as nervous as you are while doing this, so be patient and approach this practice as validating, accepting, and supporting yourself in the relationship with your partner.
Bring out the best in yourself when it comes to sex – We are not talking about sexual performance. Bring forth the best in your personality and reach out to the best in your partner, both in and out of the bedroom. Don't let your scared, angry, or lazy side ruin your marriage.
Sustain that emotional contact even out of bed – Some couples convert marriage into companionship after many years of being together. This sometimes makes sex an awkward moment for both of you. Try to be intimate with her even outside the bedroom. Stare at your spouse lustfully like you used to, or hold your partner by the shoulders (or by the waist) while he or she is working at home.
Try hugging your partner until you are comfortable with each other – Try giving your partner a hug, keeping yourselves in balance and your bodies close to each other. Close your eyes, feel relaxed, and don't forget to breathe. Feelings would surface in this simple hug: how you feel about your spouse, about the relationship, and about yourself. There would be resistances and hesitations, but don't give in to them. Try this tip several times a week and observe the improvement between the two of you.
Make eye contact in bed – Lie on your side in the bed, facing your partner. Put your heads on each other's pillows, keeping ample distance so you won't be looking at a Cyclops. Relax and look at each other's eyes. If you feel the urge to touch your partner, do so on the face or on the hand. Don't rush into the genitals or buttocks until both of you can reach a relaxed connection. Try running this moment of touching into a moment of further intimacy like foreplay and eventually intercourse. This is not to arouse each other, rather to establish a spirited collaborative alliance with each other.
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How To Improve Your Love Relation
What's the key to successful relationships? A couple relationships may be the most important in your life. It is often the main relationship in people's lives; it is the basis of a family and this is the place where most of us learn about love, commitment, communication, negotiation and compromise.
Quality time - Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Try to have one evening out per week, just the two of you. If you have children this is more difficult to arrange – but it’s not impossible. And do try when you have this ‘date’ to avoid talking about your offspring or your work. Security - A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
Independence - Keep your dependence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don't strangle them, because you will make your partner feel trapped.
Communication – Women should explain, early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm. Same thing for men, you should explain early in your relationship what do you prefer and how would you like your partner do it. Support - Encourage your partner to listen to you, by showing appreciation when it does. Remember that most men aren't mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.
Do not control - When conflict occurs, you should open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict. Don’t try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior. When you try to control you create even more conflict.
Take care of yourself - It’s very sad that couples often stop making an effort with how they look. A small thing can transform a routine into more of an occasion.
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Date Night Tips : Heat Up The Romance
Tired of the same routine? Have you forgotten the last time you were with your spouse alone? Thinking of spicing up the romance?
It looks like the perfect time for you and the hubby to have a romantic getaway together. Even with the kids underfoot and your jobs and chores threatening to overtake you, there is still time for a romantic night with just you and your husband. Your marriage doesn't have to take a backseat to your daily responsibilities.
A happy marriage requires some time together. Just because you are married doesn't mean that the romance has to fizzle. Here are some tips to make date night magical, even if it is only for one night a week.
Plan your date. The rules for dating still count. Having a plan for your date will make it a success. If you are going on a picnic plan on where you will leave your kids. Make dinner reservations at your restaurant.
Create the mood. I f you have babies and can't leave the house, there are still ways to create that romantic setting. Set up your dinner in front of the fireplace. Set some candles in your bedroom and have dinner there.
Get out of the house. Let's face having your date night at home doesn't make it much of a date. Being at home will remind you of the kids and other matters when you should be concentrating on your spouse.
No entertainment that requires you to face the same direction. Talking and being together is the main purpose of date night. You are each other's entertainment for the evening. Just be together. If you are going to watch a movie or a play make sure you talk to each other over dinner about it.
Don't bring the entire family. W hy go out at all if you're just bringing the kids along? Date night is just for you and your spouse. Don't attend anything social.
Schedule an entire night. Tell your babysitter or your oldest child that you'll be gone an entire evening.
Dress the part. It might help the mood if you dress up for date night. You'll be able to surprise your hubby and you'll feel good about getting out of your sweats for an evening.
Play your song. This may sound overly cheesy but request the band to play your song. If your husband doesn't remember it anymore, why don't you remind him?
Eliminate any distractions. Don't bring your cell phones. Don't even think of turning on the television or answering the door.
Be creative. Instead of doing the usual dinner out why not try something new? Go boating or go to the local fair. Take a nature hike. Just focus on each other.
Date night can help transform your marriage but only if you are both in the spirit of it. Try to connect with your spouse. Make date night a weekly ritual. Date night might lead to more interesting things later on.
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Diffrence Between Men & Women In Relationship
Just like when they say “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,” the opposite sex are literally polar opposites when it comes to relationships, especially in thought process, sensitivity,
memory, and communication.
A successful relationship is one that recognizes that difference and is able to get beyond the he said/ she said scenarios. Here are some notable variations.
Difference in solving problems – Both sexes are capable of solving problems equally well. However, the thought process involved in coming to a resolution varies between men and women. For men, a problem is an opportunity for them to demonstrate their problem-solving skills in a quick and efficient manner. Men see having the problem solved as the ultimate goal and they believe that the best solution is the one that is the quickest as well as the most efficient. Meanwhile, women see a problem as an opportunity to work together and reach a resolution. Women relish the chance to communicate about the problem and the act of working together to solve the problem is more important than actually solving the problem.
Difference in sensitivity – Women have a heightened sense of sensitivity relative to men, resulting to women being more prone to act on their emotions rather than on rational thought. A woman's sensitivity allows her to understand her own feelings as well as those of others better so her reactions tend to take feelings into consideration above logic. However, men do not have the same level of sensitivity and therefore are more likely to make their decisions based on logic. This disparity can result in problems during a relationship because women assume that men
intentionally tried to hurt their feelings while men may grow frustrated if he believes women made an irrational decision.
Difference in memory – Men have a memory that is stronger in situations where they can recall the details of an event by making an association with something concrete like a location or item. For instance, men are more apt to remember an event that took place in a location that they are able to visualize well. Women, on the other hand, have a memory that is stronger
when they are able to associate the emotions felt with that memory to other memories where they have similar emotions. This type of memory is especially problematic because when women become angry with their partner, they are often able to recall other situations where men have
angered her. Unless the difference in memory is recognized, it can become a source of frustration in a relationship.
Difference in communication style – Men tend to be more introspective about their problems and choose to deal with them internally and without discussing them with their partner. When they do decide to discuss a problem, it's usually after much thought and careful consideration. Meanwhile, women enjoy conversing about their problems with their partner and believe that doing do helps them to understand their problem better and come to a solution more easily. Women often use communication as a method for reaching a conclusion, and view the discussion as a way to figure out a solution. Careful observance and understanding of these differences is necessary for a relationship to flourish. Understanding these principles and being willing to go beyond them would help minimize difficulties in a relationship in regards to gender differences.
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Top 20 Speed Dating Pick-Up Lines
Speed Dating is all about asking questions and answering them with all honesty. Instead of the cheesy “What's your sign?”, how about trying these ten questions you can use in your speed dates that would really bring out the best in your date. In random order now...
· What are you most passionate about
· What kind of movies/ music/ TV shows do you like?
· What do you do for a living? (note that you should not divulge you company name)
· What have you learned from your past relationship?
· What do you consider your best attributes?
· What makes you laugh?
· What is the most adventurous thing you have ever done?
· What is your most memorable moment?
· What time in history would you like to be born and why?
· What's the most reckless thing you have ever done?
· What would be your ideal holiday destination?
· What are the most important thing you look in a person?
· If you live anywhere in the world where would it be?
· Where do you see yourself in 3 years time?
· If you won the lottery how would you spend it?
· If you could grant 3 wishes, what would they be?
· What are the three things you would take with you on a deserted island?
· What song best sums you up and why?
· What do you do for fun?
· If you were to star in a movie, what kind of film would it be and who would be your co-star?
Of course, you can make your own questions for your speed date. Just remember that you are asking your date in such a way that it brings out his personality.
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Speed Dating Advantages
There is a new way of dating, and you could get to know a lot of different singles in the process. It's called Speed Dating, a new mating sport that is being played in bars, clubs, and community
centers in North America and Europe. If you get invited to join a speed dating event and you don't have an idea what it is all about, then you have come to the right place.
Dating and playing at the same time – Speed Dating can be described as a cross between a job interview, a blind date, and a game of musical chairs. Participants get four to eight minutes, depending on where you are playing the game, to meet scores of different potential partners. With speed dating, you can meet as many as 25 people or even more.
A hybrid of online and offline dating – You get to meet a number of strangers within the safety of a friendly and merry environment that is policed by the organizers. At the end of the night you can ask a partner for a date, but a date only takes place if the other party is in agreement.
Does not put you into embarrassment when rejected – In most speed dating games, most communication is written or concealed from the potential dates. A big plus is that it spares singles the face-to-face embarrassment of turning someone down.
Ideal for busy people – Speed dating probably best suits busy careerists who would benefit from meeting as many people as they can within a short
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Party Date Ideas
If dating one-on-one makes you feel bored, then try raising the ante by party dating. It is a great way to meet new people, meet new singles, and find new friends. All you have to do is take your friends along—or try going on solo—and go clubbing while establishing your social network among fellow party revelers. Party dating is safe because such parties are in public places,
there is always a crowd, and you are not on a risky blind date. Here are some cool and creative suggestions on having fun with your party date.
Browse around – Singles party abound in your local area just at any given day, especially during holidays. Check out the party scheds through the Internet or through local newspapers.
Wear what's in for clubbing – Remember that interacting with other singles in a club require first impressions, and what you wear in a dance hall is not exactly what you wear on the street. Club wear can vary from sexy to deconstructed clothing, depending on your mood and your personality. Check out clubbing magazines or watch dance music videos for some inspiration.
Try wearing a costume – Costumes are not limited to Halloween. You can put on a cool get-up in the club and be someone that you fantasize about, like a flight stewardess or an angel. Being the only one in costume, that makes you stand out among the crowd and more people would notice you, and possibly get to know you. If you're going out with friends, try wearing
identical costumes.
Dancing skills are not that important – Since most clubs and parties are crowded, you won't get to move much. What matters is that you know how to move to the beat of the music.
Have a few drinks – Take a few shots of alcohol just to loosen you up, but still sober enough to carry a conversation with a hot prospect.
Be friends with all – Don't mind if another girl dances with a guy you find cute, or when someone you don't like says some sleazy one-liners. You don't want to ruin your party mood just because of them. If you want to reject someone, be polite about it.
Don't take recreational drugs – People may say cool things about E or other substances, but better judgment would make you avoid them.
Never go out with a stranger – Even if you get to know some hot guy, that doesn't mean you trust him enough to go somewhere else. Nothing beats asking for his phone number and calling him several days after, then go out on a one-on-one date that's more fun than ever.
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Dating Night Tips
Dating is not exclusive to single people. In fact, dating your spouse is a great way to succeed in keeping your marriage together and experience true love. Date nights can work magic in your marriage by doing the following suggestions.
Have a date outside of the house – Both spouses should not do any house chores towards date night. Home would only remind them of the practical and logistical matters. Besides, it isn't a date if you take care of your children at the same time.
Do activities that would make you face each other – No movies, concerts, basketball games, or other entertainment activities that require you face in the same direction. Make yourself to be the entertainment through activities like a face-to-face dinner, playing tennis, etc. However, if you plan on going to the movies, make sure to complement it with a couple of hours talking over dinner.
Don't invite anyone else – Date night is for you and your spouse. This includes not participating in any social event.
Schedule at least a couple of hours for date night – Date nights are not like brief lunch dates you once had with your spouse. It should take the whole evening.
Do it consistently – Probably the hardest part of date night is consistent inspiration. You may initiate date night this week, but what about next week and the week after that? Try finding a babysitter who is committed to work the same hours you spend on your date night every week.
Keep the connection – If you go to the mall and read a magazine while your spouse tries on clothes, then it is not a date. However, if you help your spouse pick out an outfit and have fun offering your opinion, you would connect.
Get creative – Experiment and find fun things to do together. Try going to the local amusement park, or bring a board game to a coffee house, or have a picnic in the park. Whatever you do, keep the focus on each other.
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Suggestions For Creative Dates
Here are some creative ideas to get your dates started and spice your relationship as well:
A night under the stars – Try taking your date to a planetarium and view the constellations from a telescope or watch the starts whirl beneath the dome? Or you could take your date to somewhere private, like your garden or a beach, then lay out a blanket and candles, and enjoy an evening together watching the stars in a real sky.
Amusement park – Bring out the child within your partner by treating him or her to cotton candy, rides on the Ferris wheel, and fun shooting games.
Mini-golf – Playing a “mutation” of the gentleman's game is silly, fun, and exciting at the same time exciting. The relaxed pace of the game encourages conversation and lots of laughing.
Comedy club – Liven things up with an evening of stand-up comedy at a local club. This is a great suggestion for a first date as you can tell a lot about a person by what material amuses him or her and what material seems corny or offensive. Take note, if you don't want to be picked on by the comedian, try sitting a few rows away from the front.
Zoos and aquariums – Animals appeal to people's sense of romance, as well as a sense of humor. This is also a good suggestion for a first date as observing the antics of animals has a way of breaking the ice.
Skating at a local rink – Follow this up with some hot chocolate and fun conversation in a cozy café.
Zen Dating – Relax with your date by taking him or her to a meditation or light-working session at the local Buddhist temple. Relax afterwards with a good meal in an Indian restaurant.
Psychic sessions – Visit your local psychic together to have your palms and tarot cards read. You can even get a past-life reading to see if you have known each other in a past incarnation.
Art tour – Spend a day together visiting local art galleries and museums. Make sure you visit the gift shop of the museum to buy your date a token that expresses your appreciation for him or her.
Mazes and labyrinths – If your city has a maze, see if you and your date can get lost together inside it. Walking a labyrinth together is not only said to be good for the soul, but it will help you define your goals together.
Cooking class – Sign the both of you for a cooking class and have fun feeding each other's delicious tidbits.
Feng Shui date – Visit your local Chinatown and hunt for lucky charms, wind chimes, and small statues to bring the two of you good health, wealth, and happiness. Finish you shopping excursion with a meal for two at a Chinese restaurant.
Dancing lessons – Enroll the two of you in dancing lessons and try intimate ballroom dances like tango and rhumba. This is especially nice for seniors on a first date who wish to break the ice.
Play in the snow – If it is snowy outside, take advantage of the weather and build an ice sculpture or snowman together. You can also ride on a toboggan together and slide downhill—holding each other, of course. Finish the day with steamy hot chocolate or apple cider in front of the fireplace.
Love letters – Buy special paper and pens. Make a date by writing love letters in front of each other. Once done, exchange the letters and read them out loud. Torrid romance almost always ensues right after this one.
King or queen for a day – Assign a date where you will treat your lover as a king or a queen for that day. Your date will not have to lift a finger while you meet every demand and errand he or she commands. This package should include a foot rub as well as serving your date's favorite foods.
Sunrise date – Surprise your date by calling him or her early in the morning and asking if he or she want to meet to watch the sunrise with you. Drive to a beach or some other beautiful location and simply watch the sun rise to the horizon. Afterwards, share brunch at a restaurant.
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Where To Find Girl-Friend
Finding a date basically starts with meeting new and interesting people, and in doing so you have to get out and make yourself available to new acquaintances. It's highly unlikely that you would find a hot date while sitting on your couch watching TV or playing video games. Problem is, meeting new people is a battle between confidence and shyness. If you really want to start
meeting some new people, try making an effort to go out often. Aside from going out of the house, here are eight more ways in meeting up with new people, and possibly a new date.
Go to a place that interests you – If you enjoy reading, try visiting the local library. If you are into physical sports, consider a sporting goods store. If you like art, then going to a museum is for you. In doing so, you are most likely see people with the same interest asyours. If you found a hot prospect —like a reader planning to borrow a book that you've read or when someone is having a hard time
Choosing the right running store—be bold and approach them. Use your knowledge of the interest as your conversation icebreaker. Join a volunteer group for a cause that you support – You would meet many people who feel passionately abut the same cause and would instantly
have something to talk about. Aside from which, these cause-oriented groups often organize several projects and joining different committees that would allow you to not only help out the group but also meet a variety of new people in the process.
Join a local recreational sports league – Most major cities have leagues available where you can sign up as an individual and fill in on a team that is short a player. Even if the sport is not co-ed, just remember that your teammates may have sisters or female cousins.
Attend religious services – The service itself may be an hour long and does not make you interact with people, but religious groups often participate in a variety of other activities and are usually form committees for these. Signing up for one of these committees affords you the chance of meeting new members of the congregation on an individual basis. Be involved in local politics – While it may be a touchy subject since many people may have extremely different opinions from yours, you are also likely to meet many people who share opinions similar to yours.
Going to a bar alone – Nightclubs and bars have always been a great place to meet new people, but going there alone—without some friend who would distract from your intentions—may make you meet more people than you would expect.
Attending a wedding or a party – Just because you don't have a date doesn't mean you have to pass up on these events. Consider this as going in a bar, only that you know a lot of people there, and they may bring along friend who would be introduced to you.
Attending a sporting event – Aside from finding people with similar interests, having the same favorite sport team gives you an opportunity to celebrate together with your team's ups and downs.
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Knowing What Attracts You
Everyone has a list of qualities that attract him or her towards another person. Most of the time, we have a pre-determined checklist on what we want in another man or woman, only to realize later in life that there are other qualities that attract you more. Here is some ways to determine your ideal love partner criteria.
Make a list of what you want – Write down exactly what you are looking for in the opposite sex.
Make a list of the most important characteristics and qualities you are looking for in a partner. Start with the physical qualities and then work your way into the more detailed aspects such as education background, personality, etc. Bear in mind that this list is not permanent, as we tend to realize that there are other qualities that attract you while other aspects that used to attract may not be appealing at all.
Make a list of the qualities that attracted you from other people – Write down the people you remember you have been attracted to during your life. It could be past relationships, family members, celebrities among others. Next to each name, list down all the things you remember liking about that person. Knowing what characteristics you like in a person would prepare you better in searching for that ideal partner.
Make a list of what you need – With a trusting friend or relative, have him or her list down your personality qualities as honestly as possible. Then, list the qualities opposite yours. From these “opposite” qualities, circle those that you think would make you a better person. For instance, the one you need could be your source of strength and motivation to complement your
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Why Men Should Date Online
Men have you never tried online dating sites? Online dating sites offers many advantages over other dating alternatives. Here is a list of just some of those benefits.
Inexpensive Cost - A membership on a good online dating site is affordable and give you the
opportunity to maximize your time.
Learn about the person quickly - At a bar you can meet someone talk to her few hours and never find out about important information’s about her. Amazingly online lots of them reveal it right away.
Your get more options - In the real world you are limited to the girls that are around you. Online, the girls just need to have signed up for the site that you are on and you can join multiple sites as well.
Chance she see your strengths - At a bar a girl see you differently. First, they will be open to talk with you if you are attractive for them. Online it is different. The girl gets to look you over and if you have created yourself a quality profile, build you up based on all your strengths and then get to know the real you.
Time to select - At a bar if you see two girls that you like you have at least 5 seconds to select which one you want to talk to first. Online the girls going anywhere and if two girls email you at once you can answer both at your own pace.
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Online Dating Precautions
Meeting with someone through the Net can be exciting, yet at the same time dangerous. Although you get to meet different people from different places, the Internet is not enough to create trust towards another person. Before you venture into this activity, please be cautious and read our tips.
Don't give out personal information – This includes your last name, home or work address, phone numbers, bank account data, and other sensitive details. Sometimes, scammers who steal other people's bank savings may disguise themselves into singles looking for love through the Internet.
Don't afraid to ask – On the Internet, people can pretend to be someone else. It's not easy to
determine if someone is being honest since you have no visual, vocal, or body language to analyze, even if you have webcams and voice chats. It is okay to ask the other person for proof of important matters like job status, educational degrees, and others.
Do not use your phone to call – Hearing your date's voice erases a level of anonymity. However, it is best not to use your own phone when calling. Use a payphone instead to avoid problems with caller ID. If you and your date have a voice chat program in your computer (such as Skype or Yahoo! Messenger with Voice), you can talk to your date for free.
Listen and analyze your date's voice – It is best to talk with the person either through online or phone several times before meeting face-to-face. You can learn a lot about someone's personality by hearing his or her voice
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Meeting With Your Online Date
The Internet has changed how people meet, and that includes meeting someone for potential long-term relationships. However, meeting your online date face-to-face is like going through a blind date, even if you have exchanged e-mails and called numerous times. Read on so you would know how to improve the chances to successfully turn a virtual date into a real date.
Be at your best, but still yourself – Just like how honest you are when you describe yourself in the online dating profile, you should also relax your style and be yourself. However, you should not forget to look your best. Men should get a haircut and a clean shave (if needed), while women should have their hair done, nails manicured, and nicely made-up. After all, your first meeting with your online date creates a new set of first impressions. Choose comfortable clothes that suits your style.
Choose a public place – Make sure that your first meetings should always be on a public place such as a park, coffee shop, or at a quiet bar. Public places somehow make you feel secured.
Keep your date short – Your first date with your online fling should not necessarily begin with a dinner or a movie. A brief lunch break or a short coffee stop (up to an hour) is long enough to know more about your online date in the “real world” setting, as well as judge for yourself on each other's chemistry.
Mind your language – Not only you are judged according on how you lookAnd what you say, but also on how you say it. Be aware of your use of words, as well as your non-verbal communication such as posture and manners.
Anticipate for the unexpected – Even if you have exchanged e-mails or talked over the phone several times, chances are you might end up disappointed towards your online date once you meet him or her in the flesh. You might realize that you do not have the chemistry or connection that you are seeking towards your date. In case this happens, tell your date that you won't stay long. Make up an excuse if you have to. However, be honest to your date that you do not feel that connection (but be cordial and friendly about it).
Maintain good eye contact – Keep your eyes set towards your date. Glancing about the room gives the impression that you are not really interested.
Ask and listen – Take your time to understand what your date is saying before asking an appropriate follow-up question. The most interesting people are those who are interested in you.
Call the person by their name – Leave each other's chat nicknames on the Net. In real life, you are supposed to call your date by his or her name. It shows some respect to your date.
Be enthusiastic – Stay positive throughout the date and have a sense of humor. Don't take things too seriously. Remember that this date is supposed to be relaxed, taking your date to a friendship level before considering other possibilities.
Follow-through after the date – Whether or not the date is a success, you need to send a thank you e-mail to your date. If you're certain that the person has zero chance of going out with you in the future, just say thanks and tell that you are not interested with him or her. If the date went well, say thanks and that you are looking forward for another date.
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Online Dating Tips
If you are single and looking for someone, meeting people through the Internet can be very rewarding. Online dating websites offer a flexible, exciting and secure environment for interacting and chatting with other single people from all over the world. However, dating online should be done with much caution, as anonymity on the Net provides a safe haven for untrustworthy people. Here are some tips that would help you interact online with other single people.
Stay positive and honest – When chatting with someone online, be honest when saying things about yourself and keep a positive attitude. Chatting is like meeting people for the first time in real life. It's never a good idea to talk about negative subjects.
Pace yourself – Do not provide the other person with too much information about yourself too
soon. Just like in real life, it is best to keep yourself a mystery, showing off some of your cards as the “getting-to-know-you” phase progresses.
Take your time – Do not feel pressured to meet the person face-to-face too fast. Take your time to get to know the person to help you feel confident to schedule a meeting. Since a woman may need a little more time to feel safe, men usually prefer to let the women control the pace of the online relationship. If a man is interested in meeting a woman face-to-face, he can
let her know; however, he should let her decide when.
Pictures are powerful – Providing a picture of you is an easy way to give possible dates an idea of who you are. Profiles that include photos get many more responses online. Remember not to post a picture that isn't you; if you meet someone in person, obvious problems will arise.
Show them why you are unique – Just like in real life, you are “competing” for attention when it comes to getting into the online dating scene. Round out your profile with interesting information that highlights your unique personality, background, interests, and qualities.
Meet them face-to-face with caution – Meet your online date at a public place like a restaurant or a park. In this way, you feel relaxed and more confident. You won't feel as pressured if the person does not meet your expectations. After you meet someone that you like, close the date with a positive attitude. Thank your date for having a great time together and that
you are looking forward to chat with your date online or meet face-to-face some more.
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Should You Go Back To Your Ex-Girlfriend OR Boyfriend
One day, you received a call from your ex and he or she asks you to go out. Apparently, your ex misses you and wants you back. It may be so sudden, but you need to think quick in order to resolve this issue.
Do not be too emotional about it – It is easy to remember all of the good times and totally forget about all of the bad things because you have an emotional void that you need to fill. Don't be blind and don't trust too soon. Besides, perhaps your ex wanted you back as a friend.
Evaluate your reality check – Do you have a reason to believe that thing will be completely different if the two of you decide to to get back together? Relationships can easily be compared to a plate: Once it's broken, it's hard to put it back together.
See if both of you can compromise more – Meeting halfway is a common problem in relationships, as sometime either the two of you wanting to do things his or her way. If you would remain unbending to your ex, then why should you become lovers again?
Follow your gut feel – If you have any doubts about getting back with your ex, then you probably should not.
Remember the reason it didn't work out the first time – People rarely change. Getting back together might just make you upset a second time. Think back about the issues that you have had. Would they reoccur? Would you handle them differently?
Don't let your ex manipulate you by making promises – “I promise I'd change” is probably overused by exes. Remember to keep your cool and your emotions intact when dealing with your ex.
Get back with your ex for the right decisions – Remember that if you're thinking of getting back together just to fill the lonely time or because you are scare to stay single, you'll reduce the chances of you ever attracting someone who is perfect for you.
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How To Break Up
Breaking up is rarely easy. You both have feelings for each other at one point, and maybe you still do. And when it's time to end the relationship, sometimes things get out of hand. The key is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, in order for both of you move on with your lives and find someone better suited for each other.
Acknowledge that the relationship is really over – Come to terms with your own feeling and make a firm decision to end the relationship.
Be honest – Although break-ups can be really hard on relationships, honesty salvages any possible future friendships.
Do not delay the inevitable – Once you decide to break up with your partner, think immediately on how, when, and where you will take action. Do not drag out a pointless relationship.
Select a private place – Breaking up is not a public affair. A secluded area in the park or your partner's house can do. Find or schedule an appropriate time to meet and be alone with your partner as you tell him or her the bad news.
Never break up on the phone – Not only it is rude, it also gives an impression that you took the relationship for granted. This also means that you should not break up through online instant messaging and other “impersonal” means.
Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational – Never break up right after an argument (you might regret it later on). Also, announcing a break up in heated moments would just make the fighting worse.
Deliver the news personally – Tell your partner that you feel that this relationship on its current level needs to end.
Be firm and decisive – Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Remember to be tactful, not brutal.
Be grateful of your partner – Remind him or her that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.
Give your partner closure – He or she needs to accept the break-up. Answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends. Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways. More often than not, breaking up is as hard on the person ending the relationship as it is on the person being broken up with. Don't assume just because a person is breaking up with you means that they no longer care about you. Remember that caring about the person is different from wanting a relationship with the person.
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Knowing If The Relationship Is Over
Sometimes it is hard to tell if the relationship is really over. You have to make sure that you want to end the relationship because the person is not compatible to you after all, not because you are afraid of commitment. There are signs to help you understand where you stand. If these signs are not obvious to you, check out some of the hints we have listed. The relationship has become one-sided – A couple should compromise each other. If you feel as if you're doing all the work in the relationship, it's time to talk on amending it or break up.
The chemistry is gone – The two of you have become out-of-sync. Your conversations are not that alive as it used to be and the intimacy just doesn't feel the same.
Your partner prefers to hang out with others – You've used to the times when you dine together or having good time together, but if he or she is starting to enjoy the company of his
or her friends more—or worse, with other singles—then your relationship has a problem.
The feeling of longing is gone – Do you find yourself feeling relieved whenever you part company? You don't feel accepted and appreciated by your partner – Your partner begins to complain about things you do or quarrels with you for no apparent reason.
Your partner has become overly emotional – Your partner still loves you, but he or she has become jealous, obsessive, and even possessive about you. If you notice this, consider the extra burden you would carry in dealing with those behaviors in the coming months.
Your partner has hurt you – Any form of physical and emotional abuse is an absolute sign that you should break the relationship. Ending a relationship is never easy, regardless of whose fault it is. If you loved your partner with all your heart and soul, it can be devastating to see
him or her go. However, if you suspect that the romance has reached a dead end, do not hesitate to speak up. Once separated, you need all the support you can get from your family and friends. Don't be afraid to cry, and don't be afraid to fall in love again either.
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Signs Of Cheating
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. So even if you might be in love with whom you thought as your better half, there's always a chance that he or she may be cheating on you. Contrary to what you may think, you might not be the center of your partner's universe after all.
If you sense that your partner is cheating, you'll have to start paying attention, as she'll likely cover his or her tracks better than a practiced thief. Here are several signs that your boyfriend
or girlfriend might be spreading the love around too much and, while they may not at all imply that he or she is in fact cheating on you, serve as a warning that something is amiss with your
relationship.
Loss of sex drive – Unless your partner has been in intense stress from work, then a sudden loss of interest in sex may indicate that your loved one is getting it elsewhere.
Defensiveness – A cheating partner usually feels bad deep inside him or her and this guilt can
come out through being defensive or placing the blame on you. Examples of defensiveness include when your partner refuses to answer even the simplest and fairest questions, only answering them only after repeating them back to you, or when your partner would question your queries about his sudden change of schedule. You should also look for signs of aggressiveness from your partner.
Too much excuses – This may sound too obvious, but comments about needing to work late, having to take a business trip, or needing to unexpectedly meet with a client, can all be signs of cheating.
Telephone hang-ups – There would be times that your partner's new liaison is bold enough to call your home number. If you answer the phone, the caller would hang up, but not if your partner answers the cal. Watch out for frequent hang-ups.
Showering you with unexplained gifts – Besides defensiveness, your cheating partner may try to throw you off track by being extra nice. Flowers, chocolate, and other gifts that are given on ordinary days could be a sign of cheating. Your partner detaches from your family – The fact that he or she no longer wants to attend family functions or hang out with your friends may be indicative of “cheater's remorse.” He or she may feel guilty enough about cheating as it is, and having to face your friends and relatives may be just another painful reminder of those sins. The less time your partner immerses in your circles, the less mental anguish he or she will have to endure.
Your partner begins to point out your every flaw – Gone are the days when the two of you could communicate with such harmonious precision. Lately, every sentiment you express would set your partner off, as he or she finds any excuse to last out at you.
A mysterious friend inches his or her way into the picture – Whether it's someone she claims is a co-worker, or an old friend from “way back,” your partner keeps this friendship under wraps and is hesitant in sharing any general details about them, much less introduce you.
You feel a shift in your partner's daily priorities – Suddenly, there are no more implied Sunday dates at the movies, or something always comes up on your dance class. There is a tendency for most philanderers to schedule meetings with their new flame as often a they can, resulting in a complete disregard for previous engagements.
Your partner's sudden change of style – Remember that just as you tried to impress each other in the beginning of your relationship, so too will your partner have a sudden urge to improve his or her fashion style, or alter physical appearance for the other person. Your partner slowly breaks away – A big sign that something has gone awry comes when he or she becomes more autonomous. Your partner doesn't say “we” anymore, but rather “I.” Moreover, he or she does more things on their own, and stops consulting you about future plans.
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